1. We admitted we were powerless over the abuse, the effects of the
abuse and that our lives had become unmanageable.
2. Came to believe that a loving Higher Power, greater than ourselves,
could restore hope, healing and sanity.
3. Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of a
loving Higher Power, as we understood Her/Him.
4. Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves, the
abuse, and its effects on our lives. We have no more secrets.
5. Admitted to a loving Higher Power, to ourselves, and to another
human being our strengths and weaknesses.
6. Were entirely ready to have a loving Higher Power help us remove all
the debilitating consequences of the abuse and became willing to treat
ourselves with respect, compassion and acceptance.
7. Humbly and honestly asked a loving Higher Power to remove the
unhealthy and self-defeating consequences stemming from the abuse.
8. Made a list of all the people we may have harmed (of our own free
will), especially ourselves and our inner child(ren), and became willing
to make amends to them all.
9. Made amends to such persons wherever possible, except when to do so
would result in physical, mental, emotional or spiritual harm to ourselves
10. Continued to take responsibility for our own recovery and when we
found ourselves behaving in patterns still dictated by the abuse, promptly
admitted it. When we succeeded, we promptly enjoy it.
11. Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious
contact with a loving Higher Power as we understood Her/Him, asking only
for knowledge of Her/His will for us and the power to carry that out.
12. Having had a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we
tried to carry this message to other survivors and to practice these
principles in all our endeavors.